Sometimes the most important step you take is simply the next step

One step. Just one …  It sounds easy enough, but if you are barely surviving, one step can feel impossible! 

I remember wondering if my life would always feel like pure torture! Waking up was misery because it meant I had to face another day in this new reality. Getting dressed – why?! What’s the point? Thinking about the future? Impossible! 

Horrible experiences make you think horrible things and cause you to believe life will always be horrible. 

That is a lie. But in the moment, it’s incredibly hard to believe there is life after destruction!

Grief can make even the most basic of tasks feel impossible and yet, we have to find a way to keep living! 

One step.

One.

Step.

Forward.

If you are in a place where life is so heavy you can barely lift your head, where sleep is a blessing, where food has no taste, where nature brings no joy, where everything is just gray and numb and pointless – 

Try just one step forward. Just one … 

I dont know what that “one step” is for you … maybe its calling a friend to talk, maybe it’s getting your resume together, maybe its taking a shower and having a meal with your family, maybe its praying for the first time in a long time … 

One step

When you are going through a tough season (grief, loss, divorce, life …)  your reality becomes nothing but a series of “one more” moments until one day you do something and realize you didn’t have you psych yourself up or convince yourself to do it – that the previous steps you were taking finally got you to a place where you weren’t counting any longer. 

But it takes a whole bunch of “one step”s  to get there. 

You have to find the strength, the courage, the determination, the need to survive, to be willing to take keep taking that “one step”

Please know that we all agree that life is HARD, on the best of days. And then when you add all the extra tough stuff, it can feel impossible. Sometimes, one step in front of the other is all we can ask of ourselves. 

And hear me. HEAR ME when I say that THAT IS OK! 

No one is walking in your shoes, no one else knows how hard it is. If one step is all you’ve got, then one step is enough! 

But please keep forcing yourself to take a step. Just one. Every time you don’t want to, you are scared, sad, overwhelmed, insecure, unsure, not supported. 

Just one step.

I am not advocating for embracing your grief/trauma/hardship and letting it consume you to the point it becomes an excuse NOT to live life. If you have read any of my messages, you know that I am all about empowerment to accomplish all the fullness of life despite our pain! But I recognize that sometimes that pain is so heavy, we don’t have a choice but to count our steps. And if that’s where you are right now, I see you and I love you and I am praying for you. 

My prayer for you today is that you find the courage and the peace to take one step. You know what you must do but haven’t done it yet. Today is the day. This is your sign to do it. 

Pray this prayer: “Heavenly Father, be with me right now. I dont want to do this. I have fear, I have doubt, and I am so angry that I am even in this place! But I know that your will is greater than my current situation and I ask that you give me peace while I move forward. Bless my next steps, that they may honor you and bring me strength to keep going”

XO
Tay