Make sure you don’t break yourself fixing something that is already broken

How many of us can relate to this?!

We live in a broken world

We are surrounded by countless broken things – broken stuff – broken people. We might feel broken ourselves. 

Broken cannot fix broken.

We are not capable of fixing the broken pieces without God’s help; but we also need to pray for the wisdom to know when something is broken beyond repair – so that we can walk away.! 

I think this is a super hard lesson to learn, personally. 

I am a positive person. I also want to be loving and Christ-like and therefore, I end up giving a lot of myself to other people – most of them are completely deserving; but some are not… so for me, a lot of my journey has been figuring out what is for me, and what is for God! 

But how do you know? How can we tell when “fixing this will break me”…

I wish I had the answers because I have no idea, personally. 

I think it eventually comes down to that inner voice that we often ignore (let’s be honest).

My ex-husband was a broken man. I knew it pretty quickly when we got together, but I was in love and thought I could “fix him”. I know, I know – total cliche. 

I gave everything I had to help him. I prayed constantly that God would heal his mind and rid him of his demons – I acquiesced to all of his wants/needs/whims/career decisions. I thought this was how I helped “cure” him of his demons. I believed that if I tried hard enough, found enough resources, loved him more like he wanted/less like I felt, spent more money on what he asked for,  jumped through more hoops, sacrificed what I wanted for what he wanted, did what he asked even if I disagreed – I’d fix his broken parts. 

Guess how that turned out … 

He stayed broken and I ended up breaking along with him! I turned into someone I didn’t even recognize!

When everything “hit the fan” – not only had he created a huge mess (that I had to clean up), but  I was left with nothing and I didn’t even have ME anymore! Not only did I lose everything, but I had no idea who I was anymore either! 

I broke myself trying to fix something that was already broken.

And let me tell you something – I will NEVER do that again. 

Im grateful that I have the opportunity to rediscover myself and repair what had been broken, but I sure dont recommend it if you can avoid it!

Well, Taylor, how will I know?!

Honest answer, I dont know. 

What I can tell you is that I knew my ex-husband was broken and not fixable (by me) …. And I chose to ignore the warning signs. I chose to quiet the nagging voice in the back of my brain that kept telling me something wasn’t right … 

I listen to that voice now my friends. Loud and clear! 

My prayer for you today is that you never extinguish your own light because someone else thinks it’s too bright. Oftentimes we make ourselves small;  we break ourselves down to make someone else feel bigger, stronger, or more important. STOP! 

I pray you find the courage to be who you are. I pray you find the courage to walk away. I pray you have the courage to say “This is not my fight”. 

XO
Tay