You change for two reasons – either because you learn enough that you want to, or you have been hurt enough that you have to.

Changing is hard. 

Even when we know it’s for the best. 

Even if we chose it.

Change is letting go of things planned, things hoped for, things known!

Change happens because you want to, or you have to. But either way, it’s pretty much inevitable, isn’t it?!

The other thing about change, aside from being inevitable, is that it’s probably going to be pretty uncomfortable as well – whether you seek it out, initiate it, or not. Change requires us to do things or be things that we haven’t done or been before and that “unknown” can be really intimidating (even scary at times). So intimidating in fact, that it might deter you from taking the first step or acknowledging that you need to change.

For me, I have changed a lot over the last 2 years. And I am totally transparent that I didn’t initiate any of it because I wanted to, nope – not even close! I changed because I was hurt enough that I had to. My mom died and then my husband cheated & left. My life was no longer something I had any control over and had turned upside down practically overnight. 

At some point in the midst of my grief,  I remember having the very distinct awareness that I had a decision to make – I had to either accept the uncomfortable-ness of it all and figure out how to overcome the darkness OR  stubbornly cling to my old life and reject the reality that my life was no longer the same.  

I wasn’t prepared for what I was facing and I was terrified. TERRIFIED! 

And at my lowest point, the only thing I thought to do was pray. So that’s what I did. 

I prayed and I prayed and I prayed. And I asked God to just … help me. Help me be OPEN. Because change was here whether I liked it or not (not) and I decided that if my life was changing regardless, I was going to do everything I could to make it work out for my good – and that required me to be open to possibilities, to new thoughts/feelings/experiences. Open to relinquishing control and being uncomfortable in order to grow. 

Does this resonate with you at all?

Are you in a place where change should come and you’re delaying the inevitable?

Maybe you are feeling stuck in your career but worried you won’t be successful doing something different. 

Maybe you’re in a relationship that you know is not healthy for you long term but you’re afraid to be alone. 

Maybe you have this feeling that there is something “else” out there for you, but people might judge you or make fun of you or resent you … 

Or maybe change is already at your door – completely uninvited (rude!) – and you’re wrestling with your new reality?

There are a million different scenarios that could (or should) turn your world upside down. 

What will you do? 

What I have learned about change is that it requires a courageous decision in US to do what we haven’t done before –  to challenge what IS to influence what WILL be!  Whether you have invited it into your life or not. 

Whether you’ve learned enough you want to or you have been hurt enough you have to, my prayer for you today is that when change comes your way, you give it God to make the most of the situation to honor him and make the very most out of your life. 

Listen to your instinct, your intuition, your gut, and most importantly your Holy Spirit. Your life will change regardless. Be courageous and remind yourself – it will be worth it!

XO

Tay